How I've Been Catching Up With Criticism

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One thing that I'm really grateful for last year despite the pandemic is learning how to take care of myself. Self care is an overrated topic. It's everywhere in the social media. Everyone has been talking about it, posting quotations and all sorts but not for a moment did I come in realization how it actually works and I have been missing it all these years.

Just a side note: I am still, up until now, learning how to take care of myself. This tip is so far what I have been working on from time to time last year. There are times it slips out of my consciousness, but growth is not a linear process as they said. Nonetheless, this tip helped me a lot and hopefully to you as well.







"Be the voice for ourselves."

This was one of the best advice I got from Dr. Julie Smith (@drjuliesmith), a therapist, in her Tiktok videos. If you're like me having trouble in accepting or taking in criticism, being bullied or labeled in any sort, or embarrassed in front of people, becoming the voice for yourself coaches you up in dealing with these. I know it's easy to give in with your emotions whenever you hear painful words. It's easy to divert your attention but when really you're trying to conceal your reaction. But, it's truly important to attend on what you feel.
To become the voice for ourselves means to coach yourself that every time you feel sad or angry be there for yourself just like a coach telling you what to do. 

Example scenario:
If you receive hateful and negative words from someone, tell yourself this...

"Everything that a person says speaks about them and not me. I know my worth, just at the fact I am born out of every possible people that could have been better than me. I know my weakness and strength, who I am and not. I know myself better than them"

Practice attending to yourself every time you're in the situation. To become the voice for ourselves also applies to any situation that triggers your anxiety. In my experience, this help me take control of my anxious thoughts and lead it systematically and objectively. At some point you tend to drift away from doing this - it's okay. Growth as they say isn't a linear process. You can always come back and try again.



And that is how I've been catching up with criticism. It's my form of self care last year and I'm thankful that I have learned about it. Hope this helps you too😉









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Comments

  1. bloglifewithericaJanuary 3, 2021 at 12:03 AM

    The best thing about this pandemic was how it slowed me down. Because of it I was able to make more time for myself and I made self care a priority.

    I feel like I am more present and live life more in the moment. Rather than worrying about what is to come next. I am so grateful and blessed that I was able to change my perspective and turn something negative into something positive.

    xo Erica

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    1. FionaJanuary 3, 2021 at 4:42 PM

      Same! That's really wonderful! Hoping you'll have the same good changes and even more improvements this year :)

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  2. JaclynJanuary 3, 2021 at 12:34 AM

    It’s great that you’ve used the pandemic to focus on yourself and your growth. Knowing your worth is such an important lesson that we all need to learn. The internet and social media can definitely effect self-esteem, so finding a way to be in control of your own self worth is vital. Thank you for sharing x

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    1. FionaJanuary 3, 2021 at 4:45 PM

      I agree -- 100%!!!! Thank you for the kind comment! <3

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  3. AnonymousJanuary 4, 2021 at 8:29 PM

    This is really interesting. Focusing on yourself is so important, it is something I am doing this year and I excited to develop and grow. Thank you for sharing.

    Lauren

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    1. FionaJanuary 5, 2021 at 6:33 PM

      I support you Lauren!<3 thanks for stopping by :)

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  4. Lisa M. AliotoJanuary 5, 2021 at 11:21 PM

    It's so true that selfcare is talked about all the time yet it took me a long time to really start doing it. I still need to do more...

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    1. FionaJanuary 12, 2021 at 12:39 PM

      yes i agree! it's the same for me too, time might be really a factor :)) thanks for stopping by!

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  5. The Yorkshire DreamerFebruary 20, 2021 at 11:11 AM

    This is a wonderful post to read, and it is nice to see how you have used the pandemic to focus on your growth. I love how you provided an example of becoming the voice for yourself. I can sometimes feel overwhelmed when I am in front of other people, so this will be a good way for me to handle those situations. Thank you for sharing. 😊

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    1. FionaFebruary 24, 2021 at 8:06 AM

      Yes thank you for the lovely comment! Hope it helps ^^, stay safe!

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  6. Lynn MejiaMarch 11, 2021 at 2:28 PM

    I've taken the past year to focus on myself as well. I feel so blessed to be in the position I am now. I do think that self care means different things to different people so self care to me is still bubble baths and candles and pastries haha! Thanks for sharing xx

    www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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  7. notsomoderngirlMay 24, 2021 at 9:10 PM

    This is a great and important experience of learning to understand what you need and looking after yourself, thank you for sharing x

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